Season 2. Episode 9: What Happened to the Spoons?

Welcome to Tea, Toast and Trivia.

Thank you for listening in.

I am joined by my mother, Frances, and my sister, Sarah to solve the mystery of the missing spoons and discuss the importance of storyteller.

So put the kettle on and add to the conversation.  We would love to hear your thoughts on TeaToastTrivia.com

I am your host Rebecca Budd and I’m looking forward to sharing this moment with you.

Music by Stonekeepers “A Faded Photograph” (Instrumental Version) Epidemic Sound

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  1. Gallivanta says:

    A very pertinent discussion as I and my siblings try to sort through our mother’s belongings ( and begin to think about our own). Mum labelled a few of her things but we are already asking about other things, “Why did Mum keep this? What is its significance.”

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    1. Clanmother says:

      You will be in my thoughts during this time. And yes, these moments give pause on our possessions. As I look into the book shelves and cabinets, I remember the story behind each piece, book, card. Sometimes I find a note, letter or poem in the pages of books that I had long forgotten was there. Hugs coming your way.

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  2. elisabethm says:

    With each podcast I’m getting to know you, and your family a bit better:-) The king of Sweden… a royal connection…

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    1. Clanmother says:

      I am so glad that you are listening in, Elisabeth and joining our family conversations. There are so many stories that tie our lives to the past and future. Just finished “The Secrets We Kept.” I LOVED this book. Thank you so much for the introduction. And here is a poem that I found for our next podcast:

      “For one can live in friendship
      With verses and with cards, with Plato and with wine,
      And hide beneath the gentle cover of our playful pranks
      A noble heart and mind.”
      Alexander Pushkin

      Sending hugs across the pond.

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  3. Julia says:

    I love the sound of your mother’s voice! And it will only grow more precious to you over time. I’ve been in the process of getting rid of so much from my past, but this podcast will help me choose what to save. Also, thanks for your book recommendation (in the comments) – I have put a request into the library for “The Secrets We Kept” which I know I will enjoy. I read Pasternak’s masterpiece a few years back and was surprised at how it differed from the movie version of “Doctor Zhivago,” and how much deeper it seemed to go…I thought the movie was deep enough! But the book left me with an entirely new perspective on the story.

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    1. Clanmother says:

      Thank you so much for listening in and joining our conversation. I have come back late to novels so this year – 2020 – will bring in a new perspective to my reading. I have always had a desire to become more familiar with Russian Literature. Elisabeth van der Meer from the blog “A Russian Affair” has been an invaluable resource. She was the one who recommended “The Secrets We Kept” https://arussianaffair.wordpress.com/

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  4. Mary Jo Malo says:

    Delightful conversation as always, especially about the need for family stories, or history, and our need for connection to them. Keeping ‘records’ for our families is important, because we never know who’ll take an interest in them. It’s important to live in the present wholeheartedly and to understand our own histories, but it’s also imperative that our descendants understand we kept their futures in mind. Thank you always for sharing and inspiring…hugs!

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    1. Clanmother says:

      I find family histories are like other histories – they get a little muddled because of time and memory, which changes as our perceptions change. And there are some stories that are hidden forever. We are the keeper of stories. We are also storytellers. I am on a journey to discover how those two concepts connect. Thank you for joining me in this quest.

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  5. Your family story of the spoons is such a good metaphor for the need to know where we came from. I also was struck by the discussion of needing to record our stories for those family members who come after us. I’m setting my descendants up for a bit of a challenge because I write a lot about my family, but in fiction. Once the writing process has done it’s work, I can no longer tell the difference between many of the facts that inspired the story and the fiction they became. I did research and write the story of my maternal grandmother’s education in Nova Scotia–and everything was cited with a reliable source document.

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    1. Clanmother says:

      You have brought up an excellent point. What are the real stories? When we write or talk about a particular event, is it through our perspective, or do we imagine it through another person’s memories? Perhaps we have a little fiction in all of our storytelling. I remember things quite differently from my siblings. I am currently reading Bush Runner – The Adventures of Pierre Radisson, which is based on his diaries. The author takes pains to discuss the issues that come up when relying on this type of document. It is an interesting read. Your story of your maternal grandmother’s education in Nova Scotia would be very interesting.

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      1. What was most interesting about what I discovered about my grandmother was that she had obtained a teaching license and taught for a year before moving to Toronto to train as a librarian. My mother was bound and determined that her mother had never been a teacher, but indisputable evidence was in the provincial records.

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      2. Clanmother says:

        A confirmation that we don’t know all of the stories. Very very interesting.

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      3. The most intriguing story, which of course we will never know, is how her two daughters would not have known this about her.

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